Body language plays a bigger role in relationships than we often realize. Hand gestures, eye contact and even posture can all communicate how you feel to the people you care about. Whether you’re falling in love, loving the single life, or getting ready for the big day, good posture promotes a healthy mentality and happiness at any stage of a relationship.
The First Date
It’s ten minutes before your dinner date is expected to arrive and you’re a bundle of nerves. Before you head out, take a moment to put your hands over your head or stand with your hands on your hips, and you’ll immediately feel more confident. Popularized by social psychologist Amy Cuddy, doing power poses like these will help ease any pre-date nerves.
Once you’re at the restaurant and and find yourself slouching at the dinner table, try sitting up straight. If you’re somebody who often slouches while sitting, you can practice sitting posture ahead of time by using the two hand rule: simply place one hand right above your stomach and one by the base of your torso. Whenever you lean forward or back, make sure the distance between your two hands does not change. Since 55 percent of your communication is through body language, use your posture as a tool to impress your date with how competent, open-minded, successful, and confident you are. Great posture can also make you feel and appear more attractive: standing tall can help accentuate your silhouette and can make you look ten pounds lighter.
Meeting The Parents
Fast forward a few months, and you and the sweetie are doing better than ever. In fact, you’ve reached that big relationship milestone: meeting the parents.
This can be a nerve wracking experience because there’s a lot of pressure to prove that you’re the right fit for their son or daughter. When you meet the parents for the first time, remember to tap into the power of good posture again. As you’re introducing yourself, square your shoulders, keep your chin up, and feet shoulder width apart. Stand tall throughout the conversation and you’ll get through those interrogating questions with impressive self-assurance. Where do you see yourself in five years? What are your hobbies? What are your parents like? Before you know it, Mom and Dad are insisting that you tag along on their annual summer vacations to Miami (to you and your honey’s apprehension).
The Big Day
Time flies and before you know it, that dinner date is now your betrothed.
Good posture can help you look poised on your wedding day. When the jitters keep you up the night before and you’re trying on your outfit in secret for the tenth time, observe just how much the way you hold yourself calms you down and makes you feel more attractive. If you have a Lumo Lift, use it to train your posture ahead of the big day. You can even clip one of our white Swarovski magnetic clasps to your dress or try one of our more neutral colors to match your tuxedo. If you’re feeling athletic, doing some crunches and oblique exercises can also build up core muscles that will help you stand tall.
The last thing you want is to look back on your wedding photos and see you both hunching over as you exchange rings. When the big day arrives, keep up all the hard work you’ve put into your posture, and you’ll be confident and radiant as ever when you walk down the aisle, say your vows, and dance the night away.
Wherever you are in your love life, paying attention to your posture can empower you, making you feel more confident and happy, and in turn affect your relationships for the better. It’s not only good for you, it’s good for love! Happy Valentine’s Day!
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